How did I finally beat my anxiety?
Riding around the warm-up ring, trying to survive the chaos of horses going in all directions, my nerves made me feel sick before I even entered the ring. All I could think about was keeping my horse safe and the possibility of making a mistake that could hurt him. This was my anxiety—the fear of failure, of causing harm. 

As riders, we all know that feeling of anxiety creeping in—whether it's before a big competition, an unfamiliar course, or just the pressure to perform well. For years, I struggled with anxiety in my riding, and I know many of you can relate. But here's the truth: it doesn’t have to control us. Over time, I discovered a few powerful mindset shifts that helped me finally overcome my anxiety, and I want to share them with you.

1. Embrace Imperfection – Mistakes Help Us Learn  
The first shift was realizing that mistakes aren’t the enemy—they’re part of the process. For so long, I beat myself up over every misstep. Each mistake felt like failure, and that only fueled my anxiety. But once I embraced imperfection, I started seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow. The more I accepted that I wouldn’t be perfect every time, the less pressure I put on myself, and the more I could focus on improving.

Next time you make a mistake, ask yourself: What can I learn from this? Use it as fuel to grow.

2. Shift From Fear to Curiosity – Explore the Fear  
Anxiety thrives on fear. For a long time, I avoided the things that made me anxious, but that only let the fear grow. The game-changer for me was leaning into fear with curiosity. Instead of asking, what if I fail? I asked, why do I feel this way? 

Exploring my anxiety helped me understand its root and take away its power. I realized that fear isn’t a signal to stop—it’s a signal to pay attention, learn, and grow. Curiosity is key to overcoming anxiety.

3. Build Momentum – Soak Up Courage Pennies!  
Every time I took a small courageous step; I added a courage penny to my bank. The more courage pennies I collected, the less room there was for anxiety. I started with small, achievable goals—like taking a deep breath before each ride or focusing on one part of my course. Each small win built my confidence and shifted my mindset.

The more I practiced facing anxiety head-on, the more control I gained. Anxiety became less of a roadblock and more of a sign that I was growing.

Beat Your Anxiety!  
If you’re looking for extra support to face your riding anxiety head-on, my Courage Coaching Program is here for you. We’ll work on strategies to strengthen your mindset, embrace challenges, and turn setbacks into steppingstones. Whether you want to improve your riding performance or just build more confidence in everyday life, I’m here to help. 

Click HERE to learn more and join the program. Let’s tackle this journey together!



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Hey there! I’m Elise Hittinger—Fear Slayer, Confidence Creator, and your go-to Courage Coach.

 
Once upon a time, I was that fearless kid riding deep into Angeles National Forest without a second thought. Then bam—life threw me a plot twist. A horse flipped on me, pinning me beneath it, and fear crept in like an uninvited guest who wouldn’t leave.

That moment tested everything. But here’s the wild part—I walked away with only bruises and a divine reminder that I wasn’t done yet. Fear may have stolen my joy for a while, but it did not get the final say.

Fast forward to a move to Kentucky, where the trails were calling my name. I had two choices: let fear keep the reins or take them back. Spoiler alert—I took them back. Now, I help other riders (and, honestly, anyone sick of fear running their life) do the same.

I make fear pack its little bags and GTFO. Whether it’s through hypnotherapy, NLP, or a little well-placed humor, I help people trade anxiety for confidence, doubt for courage, and overthinking for action.

So, if you’re ready to kick fear to the curb and rediscover the joy you deserve—I’m here for it. Let’s do this.

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