How did I finally beat my anxiety?

How did I finally beat my anxiety?
Riding around the warm-up ring, trying to survive the chaos of horses going in all directions, my nerves made me feel sick before I even entered the ring. All I could think about was keeping my horse safe and the possibility of making a mistake that could hurt him. This was my anxiety—the fear of failure, of causing harm. 

As riders, we all know that feeling of anxiety creeping in—whether it's before a big competition, an unfamiliar course, or just the pressure to perform well. For years, I struggled with anxiety in my riding, and I know many of you can relate. But here's the truth: it doesn’t have to control us. Over time, I discovered a few powerful mindset shifts that helped me finally overcome my anxiety, and I want to share them with you.

1. Embrace Imperfection – Mistakes Help Us Learn  
The first shift was realizing that mistakes aren’t the enemy—they’re part of the process. For so long, I beat myself up over every misstep. Each mistake felt like failure, and that only fueled my anxiety. But once I embraced imperfection, I started seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn and grow. The more I accepted that I wouldn’t be perfect every time, the less pressure I put on myself, and the more I could focus on improving.

Next time you make a mistake, ask yourself: What can I learn from this? Use it as fuel to grow.

2. Shift From Fear to Curiosity – Explore the Fear  
Anxiety thrives on fear. For a long time, I avoided the things that made me anxious, but that only let the fear grow. The game-changer for me was leaning into fear with curiosity. Instead of asking, what if I fail? I asked, why do I feel this way? 

Exploring my anxiety helped me understand its root and take away its power. I realized that fear isn’t a signal to stop—it’s a signal to pay attention, learn, and grow. Curiosity is key to overcoming anxiety.

3. Build Momentum – Soak Up Courage Pennies!  
Every time I took a small courageous step; I added a courage penny to my bank. The more courage pennies I collected, the less room there was for anxiety. I started with small, achievable goals—like taking a deep breath before each ride or focusing on one part of my course. Each small win built my confidence and shifted my mindset.

The more I practiced facing anxiety head-on, the more control I gained. Anxiety became less of a roadblock and more of a sign that I was growing.

Beat Your Anxiety!  
If you’re looking for extra support to face your riding anxiety head-on, my Courage Coaching Program is here for you. We’ll work on strategies to strengthen your mindset, embrace challenges, and turn setbacks into steppingstones. Whether you want to improve your riding performance or just build more confidence in everyday life, I’m here to help. 

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How to become more mentally resilient?

How to become more mentally resilient?
It was an early, chilly morning—the kind where your breath forms little clouds in the air, and even the horses’ breaths steam in the crisp atmosphere. I stood at the in-gate, trying to memorize my course and the jump-off for the first class of the day. The biting cold made my hands shake, and I could feel the tremors travel all the way to my brain, making it harder to concentrate. With so many jumps to remember, I knew if I didn’t focus, the whole thing could fall apart. 

We all face challenges—whether it’s riding, studying for a test, or dealing with personal struggles. And while these challenges can be daunting, overcoming them builds our mental resilience. As I prepared for my ride, I reflected on how resilience isn’t just about toughing things out—it’s about growing stronger from the obstacles we face.

Here are a few things that have helped me improve my mental resilience over time:

1. Embrace Challenges as Opportunities to Grow  
Instead of seeing challenges as roadblocks, try to view them as opportunities to grow. For example, that cold morning at the in-gate wasn’t just about memorizing jumps—it was a chance to strengthen my focus and determination. Write down the challenges in your life and think about how they could help you grow. Even setbacks can lead to valuable lessons if you approach them with the right mindset.

2. Learn from Mistakes and Setbacks  
When things don’t go as planned, it’s easy to get frustrated. But I’ve learned that the most valuable lessons come from reflecting on our mistakes. Take a moment to review where things went wrong and consider what you could do differently next time. For me, this meant reviewing how I prepared for that morning’s class and deciding I needed to sharpen my focus in colder weather. This process of reflection helps build mental toughness and resilience for the future.

3. Set and Revisit Your Goals (Even the Ones You Failed)  
This is one of my favorite ways to practice resilience. We all have goals we’ve set and, for one reason or another, didn’t achieve. When I look back at my past resolutions—like the ones I made every New Year but never followed through on—I realize that accomplishing them would have brought me joy. But instead of beating myself up, I took a different approach: I set a new goal to laugh 400 times a day. It was too big to measure, but it kept me looking for moments of joy in every day, which made me more resilient in the process.

These are just a few ways to help you develop mental resilience in riding and in life. Remember, the key is not to avoid challenges, but to meet them with a mindset that lets you grow stronger each time.

Ready to build your mental resilience and take your riding (and life) to the next level?
If you’re looking for a little extra guidance and support to help you face challenges head-on and grow stronger, my Courage Coaching Program might be just what you need. Together, we’ll work on strategies to strengthen your mindset, embrace challenges, and turn setbacks into steppingstones.
Whether you’re looking to improve your riding performance or simply build more confidence in everyday life, I’m here to help you take that next step. Click HERE to learn more and join the program. Let’s tackle this journey together!



What Are the Psychological Benefits of Horseback Riding?

What Are the Psychological Benefits of Horseback Riding?
The sun on my face, the breeze in the mane, feeling the horse beneath me, partnering with me on adventures, whether it is in the arena jumping or out on the trails, the feelings of connection with the horse are precious and unique. Horseback riding provides a wealth of psychological benefits that contribute to overall well-being and mental health. From reducing stress and anxiety to boosting confidence and self-esteem, the psychological advantages of horseback riding are both profound and diverse.

Here are 4 ways horseback riding boots mental health:

1. A key psychological benefit of horseback riding is its ability to promote relaxation and reduce stress. I know, for those of us with fear, it doesn't seem like it, but remember back to your first rides and how good you felt after you dismounted. Spending time with horses and engaging in the rhythmic motion of riding can have a calming effect on the nervous system, lowering cortisol levels and inducing a state of relaxation. The peacefulness of nature and the bond formed between rider and horse further enhance this sense of tranquility, providing a welcome escape from the pressures of daily life.

2. Riding is a great way to alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression. The physical activity involved in riding stimulates the release of endorphins, neurotransmitters known as the body's natural mood elevators, your feel good stuff. Riding makes you feel better.

3. The sense of accomplishment and mastery that comes with mastering new riding skills can also boost self-confidence and self-esteem, helping riders feel more empowered and in control of their lives.  I know for me, the more I have worked on my courage riding, the more confident and the better I feel in all areas of my life.

4. Horseback riding fosters a sense of connection and companionship, both with the horse and with fellow riders. The bond formed between rider and horse is based on trust, mutual respect, and nonverbal communication, providing a unique form of emotional support and companionship. Riding in a group setting also fosters a sense of camaraderie and belonging, allowing riders to connect with others who share their passion for horses and the outdoors.  My communication with my husband has improved with my improved communications with my horses.  I understand so much more about two way communication and more important, listening!

Overall, the psychological benefits of horseback riding are numerous and far-reaching. Whether it's reducing stress and anxiety, boosting confidence and self-esteem, or fostering connections with others, horseback riding offers a holistic approach to mental well-being that enriches the lives of riders of all ages and abilities.

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