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Elise Hittinger - Courage Coach

Elise is a Courage Coach, Certified Hypnotherapist, and NLP Practitioner dedicated to helping anxious equestrians get out of their heads and back in the saddle with calm and confidence. Through her "Turn Riding Fear Around Podcast" and bestselling book, 'Rise from Fear to Courage,' she empowers riders to quiet the noise, reset their nervous systems, and reconnect with the joy of riding. She leads a thriving community of over 1,600 riders in her 'Overcoming Anxiety & Fear Horseback Riding' Facebook group. Learn more about Elise's transformative coaching through a Calm-Ride Strategy call.

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The Confidence Pivot: What to Do When Fear Stops You Cold

The Confidence Pivot: What to Do When Fear Stops You Cold
There’s a moment—maybe you’ve felt it—when fear hits so hard your body freezes. Your brain goes offline. Your breath disappears. And all the confidence you thought you had? Gone.

I’ve been there.

Years ago, a mountain lion jumped onto the back of my pony while I was riding. It missed me by inches, but ripped out part of her tail. I didn’t fall off. I didn’t scream. I was frozen to her neck. But I stayed on. I survived. And in the aftermath, something shifted.

I realized: I can ride! 
I had faced the worst-case scenario—and I was still here.

That’s the confidence pivot.

It’s the moment when fear tries to shut you down, but something deeper rises up. Not bravado. Not perfection. Just presence. Just proof.

Most of us wait for confidence to show up after we’ve succeeded. But the truth is, confidence is born in the pivot—when fear stops you cold and you choose to move anyway.

You don’t need to face a mountain lion to find it. You just need to notice the moment when fear tightens its grip to stop you. That’s your cue.

Pause.  
Breathe.  
Ask: "What do I know? What have I already survived?"

Confidence isn’t loud. It’s quiet and steady. It’s the whisper that says, “You’ve done hard things before. You can do this too.”

The next time fear shows up—on the trail, in the arena, before a big call—remember this is your pivot point. The exact place where fear wants to stop you, is the doorway to everything confidence can unlock.

You don’t need to be fearless. You just need to remember who you are, and that you have already done it.

✨ Want more tools to help you pivot from fear to clarity? Grab my workshop in eBook form: The Confidence Blueprint—9 Powerful Principles to Rebuild Your Confidence. 
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Channel the Pros: How to Step into Confidence Before You Even Begin

Channel the Pros: How to Step into Confidence Before You Even Begin
My horse was having a challenging day. You know the kind—ears tight, energy buzzing, and my own anxiety rising fast. I could feel my brain starting to shut down, that familiar fog creeping in. And then, out of nowhere, a thought popped into my head:

“What would Carson James do?”

Instant shift.

I wasn’t just thinking about Carson—I was channeling him. His calm. His clarity. His ability to assess, adjust, and act without drama. And just like that, my anxiety faded. My brain came back online. All the things I’d learned, all the tools I’d practiced—they were suddenly accessible again. I just needed to execute.

And I did. I had a great ride.

This is the confidence hack most riders (and coaches, and creatives) miss. We wait for confidence to show up after we’ve succeeded. But the pros? They summon it before they begin.

They ask, “What would my best self do here?” They channel that energy. They lead from it.

The great news? You can do this ahead of time—before you even walk into the barn. Pick your favorite trainer and walk in their shoes. The imagination we had as kids comes in handy here.

Pretend to be your favorite trainer.

Imagine stepping into their mindset. The one who handles chaos with grace. The one who doesn’t rush, doesn’t react—just responds and knows what to do.

Confidence isn’t about being fearless. It’s about remembering who you are and what you know—then choosing to lead from that place.

You don’t need more information. You need access to what you already know.

So go ahead. Channel the pro. Your brain—and your horse—will thank you.

✨ Want more tools to overcome anxiety and ride with clarity? Grab my workshop in ebook form: The Confidence Blueprint—9 Powerful Principles to Rebuild Your Confidence.  For a limited time, it’s just $17. No travel, no pressure—just powerful insight, right where you are.  Get your copy here!


The Simple Confidence Reset Every Rider Needs

The Simple Confidence Reset Every Rider Needs
When anxiety or nerves creep in while you ride, your body knows it before your mind does. Shoulders tighten, breath shortens, and suddenly your horse feels that tension too. The harder you try to “push through,” the louder the fear seems to get.

That’s why I love the 3x3x3 Confidence Reset—a simple tool you can use anytime, anywhere, to calm your nervous system and bring your focus back. It’s quick, it’s practical, and it works even in the middle of a ride.

Here’s how it works:
Step 1: 3 Breaths
Pause and take three slow, deep breaths. Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. Feel your shoulders drop a little lower each time. This step tells your body: “We’re safe.”
Step 2: 3 Things You See
Look around and name three things you can see. The fence post. The saddle horn. Your horse’s ears. Naming them out loud helps your brain shift from “what-if” thoughts to what’s real, right here, right now.
Step 3: 3 Things You Feel
Notice three things you can physically feel. The leather reins in your hands. Your seat in the saddle. Your feet pressing into the stirrups. Grounding through sensation reconnects you to your body and steadies your presence.

In less than a minute, this reset interrupts the spiral of anxious thoughts and gives your horse a calmer, more confident rider. And here’s the best part: the more you practice it, the faster your nervous system learns to respond. Eventually, confidence becomes your default, not fear.

I know firsthand how quickly confidence can be hijacked and how long it can take to rebuild. My own journey took me nearly twenty years—but it doesn’t have to take that long for you. With the right tools, like this reset, you can fast-track your calm and reclaim the joy of riding.

If you’re ready to take the next step and discover the tools that work best for you and your horse, let’s talk. Book your free Calm-Ride Strategy Call today, and let’s start filling your ride with confidence instead of fear.



The Rider’s Guide to Creating Confidence Step by Step

The Rider’s Guide to Creating Confidence Step by Step
Confidence in the saddle isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build, one ride at a time. But here’s the truth most riders don’t hear enough: you don’t have to wait decades to get there. I know, because it took me 20 years to rebuild my own confidence after a bad accident. Twenty years of trial and error, piecing things together the hard way.
The good news? You don’t have to take the long road. With the right tools, support, and a step-by-step approach, you can move through fear faster, steadier, and with a whole lot less frustration.

Think of it like learning to ride all over again. You don’t climb on a horse and instantly lope off into the sunset—you start small. First, you find your balance at the walk. Then you add in new skills, test your edges, and practice what helps you feel steady. Over time, that steady walk turns into a confident trot, then into the freedom of a canter.
Building confidence works the same way:

  • Step one: Calm your mind. Learn simple resets so fear doesn’t spiral out of control.
  • Step two: Test and practice. Add a little challenge while staying grounded in calm.
  • Step three: Build momentum. String your wins together until confidence feels natural.
It’s not about giant leaps or “faking it till you make it.” It’s about steady, consistent steps forward—steps that stack until you realize you’re riding with ease again.
Patience for steps backwards, knowing there are more steps forward that are coming.  It is an ebb and flow.

If confidence has felt out of reach, you don’t have to wait years like I did. You can start creating it today, step by step, with the right guidance.
Ready to find out what your first step should be? Let’s talk.
👉 Book your Calm-Ride Strategy Call and discover the tools that can shorten your journey back to confidence in the saddle.




The Hidden Triggers That Quietly Sabotage Rider Confidence

The Hidden Triggers That Quietly Sabotage Rider Confidence
When most riders think of fear, they picture the big events—a fall, a spook, an accident that shakes everything. But the truth? Confidence is often undermined by smaller, hidden triggers that slip under the radar until suddenly, they feel overwhelming.

It works a lot like with our horses. A horse doesn’t usually blow up out of nowhere. First, they flick an ear. Then, their head goes up. Maybe their stride gets tight. Those little signs are the whispers before the shout. And if we don’t notice? That’s when we end up with the spook, bolt, or buck.

The same is true for us. Our hidden triggers often look like:
  • A tight chest every time you mount up.
  • Avoiding a certain gait or arena corner without realizing why.
  • Telling yourself you’re “just too busy” to ride.
  • Lots and lots of "What If's".
  • SO MANY EXCUSES.
Each of these is a whisper from your nervous system. And just like with your horse, the earlier you catch the signs, the easier it is to reset.

The key is to pause and ask: What’s really going on here? Instead of pushing through, notice the trigger, name it, and reframe it. By catching it early, you stop it from snowballing into a full-blown confidence crash.

Your horse depends on you to lead with calm presence. That starts by leading yourself—listening to the whispers before they become shouts.

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Hey there! I’m Elise Hittinger—Fear Slayer, Confidence Creator, and your go-to Courage Coach.

 
Once upon a time, I was that fearless kid riding deep into Angeles National Forest without a second thought. Then bam—life threw me a plot twist. A horse flipped on me, pinning me beneath it, and fear crept in like an uninvited guest who wouldn’t leave.

That moment tested everything. But here’s the wild part—I walked away with only bruises and a divine reminder that I wasn’t done yet. Fear may have stolen my joy for a while, but it did not get the final say.

Fast forward to a move to Kentucky, where the trails were calling my name. I had two choices: let fear keep the reins or take them back. Spoiler alert—I took them back. Now, I help other riders (and, honestly, anyone sick of fear running their life) do the same.

I make fear pack its little bags and GTFO. Whether it’s through hypnotherapy, NLP, or a little well-placed humor, I help people trade anxiety for confidence, doubt for courage, and overthinking for action.

So, if you’re ready to kick fear to the curb and rediscover the joy you deserve—I’m here for it. Let’s do this.

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