One of the fastest ways to grow your confidence—especially around horses—is to start celebrating the small wins.
I’m not talking about the big, flashy breakthroughs. I’m talking about the quiet moments you might miss:
- You and your horse take some deep breaths.
- You stayed calm even when they spooked.
- You showed up, even though part of you didn’t want to, or you didn't feel like it.
Those wins? They matter.
But noticing them isn’t always natural—especially if you're used to brushing past progress and pushing for more. So here’s how to turn celebration into a habit:
1. Celebrate in the Moment
When something goes right, pause. Smile. Let it register in your body.
Even better? Say it out loud:
Even better? Say it out loud:
“That’s it. That’s my win right there.”
This tiny moment of acknowledgment helps rewire your brain to notice the good more easily. And that changes everything—your energy, your confidence, and how your horse feels around you.
2. Write It Down
At the end of your session (or your day), take 30 seconds to jot down one small win.
You don’t need a fancy journal. A note in your phone or a scrap of paper works just fine.
You don’t need a fancy journal. A note in your phone or a scrap of paper works just fine.
Example:
“April 5: My horse stood still while I adjusted the girth. I didn’t rush. We both stayed calm.”
“April 5: My horse stood still while I adjusted the girth. I didn’t rush. We both stayed calm.”
This simple act helps you track progress and reminds you that you’re doing better than you think.
3. Build the Habit with a Cue
Want this to stick? Anchor it to something you already do. For example (Pick just one thing to anchor to):
- Think about your wins while pulling off your boots
- While brushing your horse's mane after a ride
- As you close the gate
Every time you hit that moment, ask yourself:
“What went well today?”
The more you ask, the more your brain starts to look for answers automatically—and that’s where the magic starts.
If you would like to hear more, listen to my latest podcast: The Magic of Small Wins
