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The Power of Matching Energy: A Lesson from Horses and Humans
I had a HUGE aha moment this week during a book club review with some expert hypnotherapists. I was asking about a challenge I faced during a call—someone completely took over the conversation, and I kept quietly trying to interject and calm her down.
The feedback I got stopped me in my tracks:
“You can’t gently interrupt. You have to match her energy or she’ll never hear you.”
WHOA.
They weren’t saying I needed to be mean. They were saying I needed to rise to her level. Raise my tone, raise my presence, and take charge of the space.
And immediately, I thought: This is exactly like working with our horses.
If a horse is ignoring you—like mine used to when I asked her to turn left—soft whispers won’t do a thing. She needed clarity. Direction. Presence. Not pressure, not punishment, but energy that matched hers enough to be heard.
And here's the kicker… I was whispering because I was afraid of making a mistake.
Afraid of doing it wrong. Afraid of being too strong.
Afraid of doing it wrong. Afraid of being too strong.
But our horses don’t follow whispers.
They follow leadership. (Sometimes that is a whisper, sometimes, that is a shout!)
They follow leadership. (Sometimes that is a whisper, sometimes, that is a shout!)
Sometimes, those of us who are naturally soft and careful—trying so hard to do it right—end up creating the very confusion we’re trying to avoid. But that’s something we can fix.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes.
Here are my top 3 tips for not letting fear of mistakes take the reins:
1. Mistakes can be fixed.
My lead mare might pin her ears one time and swing her butt the next. Either way, the other horses move. Neither was “wrong”—it was communication. She doesn’t sit there worrying, “Oh no, was that too rough?” She communicates clearly.
You can too.
If you're a little too strong with your horse, adjust the next time. But don’t be afraid to be firm first—that’s how they know you mean it.
My lead mare might pin her ears one time and swing her butt the next. Either way, the other horses move. Neither was “wrong”—it was communication. She doesn’t sit there worrying, “Oh no, was that too rough?” She communicates clearly.
You can too.
If you're a little too strong with your horse, adjust the next time. But don’t be afraid to be firm first—that’s how they know you mean it.
2. Never question your leadership.
Be the unapologetic leader your horse needs.
Set clear rules. Be consistent. And most importantly, feel that leadership inside you.
When you trust yourself, there's no space for fear—and if you do make a mistake, you know you can fix it.
Be the unapologetic leader your horse needs.
Set clear rules. Be consistent. And most importantly, feel that leadership inside you.
When you trust yourself, there's no space for fear—and if you do make a mistake, you know you can fix it.
3. Learn from every mistake.
Every ride is a lesson.
You will make mistakes. That’s not failure—that’s feedback.
Plan for mistakes. Expect them. Then learn and adjust.
The fear fades when you realize you’re always able to repair, reset, and keep growing.
Every ride is a lesson.
You will make mistakes. That’s not failure—that’s feedback.
Plan for mistakes. Expect them. Then learn and adjust.
The fear fades when you realize you’re always able to repair, reset, and keep growing.
You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to show up with presence, clarity, and a willingness to lead—even if it’s messy at first. That’s the energy your horse will respond to. And honestly? So will the rest of your life!
Ready to stop whispering and start leading in the saddle?
Let’s work through your fear together. Book a free Calm-Ride Strategy Call and get a clear plan to ride with confidence again.
Let’s work through your fear together. Book a free Calm-Ride Strategy Call and get a clear plan to ride with confidence again.
