Don't Let Your Courage Pennies Rot in the Jar!!!
(aka spend them like you mean it)
(aka spend them like you mean it)
You ever saved up a bunch of something—money, chocolate, PTO days—only to realize you never actually used it when it mattered? Yeah. Courage pennies work the same way. You earn them when take action in spite of fear, you save to use when you need them, but if you never spend them when you could let them help you conquer fear, what’s the point?
I mean, are we just collecting them like emotional pacifiers?
No, friend. We’re not here to hoard bravery like it’s going out of style. You’ve earned courage the hard way—by doing the scary things, even the small ones. Putting your foot in the stirrup again. Speaking your truth. Saying “nope” to the voice in your head that tells you you're not ready.
You don’t need to wait for the stars to align or your confidence to hit 100%. That’s not how this works. You spend courage before you feel ready—and that’s when the real growth happens.
So here’s a friendly tip from your slightly silly (ok, I admit it, majorly silly) courage coach:
Start using your courage pennies before they get dusty. Cash ‘em in. Try the thing. Say yes to the adventure. Speak up. Saddle up. Mess up. Laugh about it later.
Because bravery isn’t some mountaintop you summit once and take a selfie. It’s a currency. And the more you spend it? The more it comes back to you with interest.
So go on. Saddle up and ride! 🐴
Your courage bank is open for business.
If you have not read all about the courage pennies and how to save them, check out the courage penny eBook!!! Grab your Courage Pennies Here!
Fear often creeps in when we don’t know what to do next. It’s not just about being afraid of riding—it’s about the uncertainty of *how* to ride safely and confidently. That’s why preparation is everything. The secret to feeling confident in the saddle is knowing the steps ahead, and the best way to do that is by asking yourself three key questions:
1. Do I Have the Knowledge I Need?
Lack of knowledge creates fear. If you don’t understand your horse’s cues, how to handle unexpected situations, or what to do if something goes wrong, anxiety will take over. Knowledge gives you a mental map—a plan for what to do next. But it’s not just about reading books or watching videos; true understanding comes from applying what you learn.
Think of it like learning to swim. You can’t master it by reading about it—you have to get in the water. The same applies to riding. Learn, ask questions, and practice with guidance to build your confidence step by step.
2. Do I Have the Experience I Need?
Experience is the bridge between knowledge and confidence. You can study riding techniques all day, but until you do it, fear can still take hold. Each ride, each interaction with your horse, builds experience and trust. Start where you are—maybe that means groundwork, short rides, or practicing in a safe environment. The more experience you gain, the less fear will control you.
3. Do I Have the Health I Need?
Physical readiness plays a huge role in confidence. If you don’t feel strong enough, flexible enough, or balanced enough to ride comfortably, your body will tense up. That tension increases anxiety, making riding feel harder than it should. Working on core strength, flexibility, and overall health will make a noticeable difference in how secure and relaxed you feel in the saddle.
The Bottom Line: Prepare Your Steps
When you prepare by gaining knowledge, building experience, and improving your physical well-being, fear naturally takes a back seat. Instead of feeling overwhelmed by the unknown, you’ll have a clear path forward. So before you ride, ask yourself: "What’s my next step?" When you have the answer, confidence will follow.
My latest podcast, The Preparation Path, talks about this in detail of you would like to hear my thoughts. LISTEN HERE!
I led my horse up to the mounting block and stood there, frozen. I felt like I couldn't breathe—like a weight was pressing down on my chest. My palms were sweaty, my hands shaking. I had to admit it: I was TERRIFIED.
I had this dream—just get on and ride. It was a perfect day, the kind made for a peaceful ride around the edge of our property. Through the hay fields, where the air smelled sweet and fresh. Under the cool shade of the forest, past wildflowers lining the trail.
It was a beautiful vision. But the journey to get there felt impossible. I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t get on.
The Overwhelm of the “Big Picture” Is the Biggest Mistake Riders Make
It’s easy to get stuck staring at the destination, wondering how you’ll ever get from here to there. The gap between where you are and where you want to be can feel like a canyon. But here’s the secret: you don’t have to jump the canyon. You just have to take the next step.
When we focus too much on the big goal—whether it’s getting back in the saddle, conquering fear, or mastering a new skill—it can paralyze us. Our brains crave certainty, and when they don’t see a clear, easy path, they throw up roadblocks: doubt, anxiety, hesitation.
But riding, like life, isn’t about making one giant leap. It’s about taking one small step, then another, then another.
How to fix it: Find Joy in the Process
Instead of worrying about the whole journey, zoom in on today. What’s the next thing you can do? Maybe it’s grooming your horse while taking deep breaths. Maybe it’s sitting in the saddle for just five minutes, focusing on feeling steady. Maybe it’s simply visualizing yourself riding with confidence.
When I finally embraced this, I got on. I took four steps. It felt amazing. I smiled for a week.
When you shift your focus from the overwhelming end goal to the manageable present moment, riding becomes more enjoyable. You start to celebrate small victories, build momentum, and before you know it, you are riding with confidence—not because you forced it, but because you allowed yourself to grow into it.
So, take a deep breath. You don’t need to be ready for the whole ride today. Just take the next step.
Your journey to confidence isn’t about the destination—it’s about enjoying each moment along the way.
If you would like to hear more, I talk about "Know the Next Step" in my latest blog you can listen too here!
Ever wondered how professional equestrians manage unexpected situations with grace and confidence? The secret lies in preparation. In our latest podcast episode, "Build the Safety Net" we dive into the crucial steps every rider should take to ensure they're ready for any contingency. After my accident, I realized just how unprepared I was—not just for that moment, but for any contingency.
I cannot stress enough the importance of preparing yourself and your horse for unexpected situations. I am going to focus on you since I am not a horse trainer, but both of you should be prepared.
Preparing Yourself for Contingencies
- Mental Preparation: Know what you will do in any of the situations that scare you. Know what you will do when your horse rears, bucks, bolts, spooks, etc. Have that mental plan and feel confident that it is solid.
- Physical Readiness: There are two parts to this. First, make sure you are as healthy as you can be, good balance, strength and flexibility are important to reduce anxiety and be able to handle any situation. The second part is to practice what you will do. With your horse standing still, practice what you will do if the horse rears. For me, I would use one rein and gently pull it off to one side so the horse comes down off balance and moving into a circle, and I can do this while standing still or walking. Whatever plan you have, practice that plan.
Preparing Your Horse for Contingencies
- Work with a professional on this one. There are so many things that can be done to help your horse remain calm during any situation.
- Building Trust between you and your horse so your horse sees you as the leader. Hint, you can't do this and be timid. You have to step up and show the horse you are leader worthy.
Practicing Dismounting and Falling
- Safe Dismounting: Practice dismounting. If you have physical limitations, this may hold you back, work to improve those physical limitations. ’m lightning-fast at dismounting, and you should be too! Also, know when to dismount and when not to. This decision is personal, but you should have a clear plan for when to stay on and when to dismount.
- Controlled Falling: there are classes you can take to fall safely. I did some off a mechanical bull and learned a lot. I have also done it off a moving golf cart.
By preparing yourself and your horse for contingencies, you can ride with confidence, knowing you're ready for whatever comes your way. Want help getting started? Here’s my contingency plan to guide you! Grab the Guide HERE!
As I was polishing my boots and cleaning my tack, the nausea was taking over, the debilitating fear was building and building fast. Here I was, paying thousands of dollars to compete, and feeling like it was a disaster of epic proportions. Like many of you, when my mind spiraled into a whirlwind of anxiety, it felt like everything was working against me.
I believe we can harness that very energy and transform it into a force that propels us forward. It starts with understanding our body's response and learning how to manage our response to turn those nerves into your biggest ally.
In our latest podcast episode, "Nervous System Takeover" we explored the fascinating connection between physical sensations and mental states. We discussed how tension in the body fuels anxiety in the mind, the similarities between excitement and nervousness, and how "what ifs" can trigger shallow breathing and a freeze response. This blog post delves deeper into these concepts, offering practical tips to help you master your mind and harness anxiety as a powerful tool.
Understanding the Nervous System
- Flight, Fight, or Freeze Response: We are no different than our horses in so many ways. When our anxiety starts to build, we may just want to run away, push through anyway, or just stay stuck. This is our cue to do something different. It is time to take some deep breaths, reframe the situation into something positive, and bring us back to enjoying what we are doing, right now in this moment, just like we would do with our horses.
Turning Anxiety into Excitement
- Reframing Nervousness: We can change the feelings of stress and anxiety, to feelings of excitement, just like when we were little and found out we were going to Disneyland. Our mind can reinterpret nerves into excitement. Think about the trigger of anxiety and find one thing you look forward to. Close your eyes and visualize growing bigger, filling you up, and replacing the anxiety—until you can feel the excitement taking over.
The Power of Awareness
- Identifying Triggers: I love this one. It is so simple and very powerful. When you think about what causes you anxiety, figure out the very first thought that you have that starts that anxiety building. That is the trigger. Reframe that very first step. Example: When my horse lifts her head, that was my trigger thinking she would rear. I reframed it so that when she lifts her head, she is being curious, and I can play with her curiosity. It felt so much better to think of the reframe and I have enjoyed her lifting her head since then.
By understanding your nervous system and learning to manage your body's response, you can transform anxiety into a powerful ally. Instead of letting your nerves control you, harness that energy to propel you forward and achieve your goals. To really get some help with transforming your anxiety, I would love to chat with you about our Courage Coaching program which will walk you through each step. Schedule here!
