When I was getting back into trail riding, I pictured myself out there for an hour with friends, laughing and exploring the trails. But honestly? That vision felt like a giant elephant in the room—too big, too overwhelming. Just thinking about it made my anxiety spike. I wasn’t ready for the whole ride, and those big thoughts kept me stuck in place instead of inching forward.
Here’s the truth: momentum doesn’t come from huge leaps—it comes from tiny, doable shifts that stack up over time. Here are a few momentum hacks that can lead to BIG wins:
1. Break it down like a recipe.
If your goal is trail riding with friends, think of it like baking a cake. You don’t just say “cake” and expect it to appear—you gather ingredients, follow steps, and check the oven. The same goes for your riding goal. Gather your safety gear. Practice mounting and dismounting. Make sure you and your horse are confident at the walk, trot, and canter before you hit the trail. Use short rides to check where you’re at and fill in any gaps. These small steps build the confidence—and momentum—you need to get there.
2. Repeat until it's second nature.
Repetition is your secret weapon. The more you mount, ride, and dismount, the more effortless it becomes. You’ll uncover and fix the little things that might trip you up on the trail. By the time you're ready to go, your body (and your horse) will know exactly what to do.
3. Prepare for the "what ifs."
One small but powerful shift? Contingency planning. Many riders skip this step—and it’s a confidence killer. I had a fear of rearing, so I studied what others do, visualized it, and practiced my plan in a safe, controlled setting. I did the same with spooking, bucking, and bolting. This kind of mental prep builds trust in yourself and your horse—and keeps your momentum rolling forward.
One small but powerful shift? Contingency planning. Many riders skip this step—and it’s a confidence killer. I had a fear of rearing, so I studied what others do, visualized it, and practiced my plan in a safe, controlled setting. I did the same with spooking, bucking, and bolting. This kind of mental prep builds trust in yourself and your horse—and keeps your momentum rolling forward.
Small steps. Big wins. That’s how we ride forward—one shift at a time.
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Friends often reach out and let me know they are ready to canter, they horse is ready to canter, but they mind is having none of it. Like many of you, our minds can run the show and rob us of our joy, whether it be riding horses, cantering, or just living life to the fullest, if we let it. I know I don't want to be that person, sipping tea on the front porch, looking back over my life and saying, "I didn't do the things I wanted to do!"
I believe we all have the ability to give the neigh sayer part of our mind a timeout, over in the corner, and bring the joy back into our lives with the happy part of our mind taking the lead.
But how?
Cantering is a great example. When some of us think about cantering, we can feel the tension, anxiety and fear build, almost immediately. That is our neigh sayer. So let's turn that around. We don't care if we ever canter. Fun side of the brain, how many ways can we trot? How can we get our horses balanced perfectly at the trot. Let's go faster and slower at the trot. How slow can we go for 10 strides and then how fast can we go for 10 strides. Can we feel a "10 speed" bike with our horse at trot, staring out slow and then a bit faster, then a bit faster and then a bit faster.
How many ways can we play at the trot. If we play enough at the trot, we will become much better riders. Our horses will become more balanced and tuned in to us. Eventually, as we are working on a well-balanced, fast trot, our horse will step into the canter. We can then CELEBRATE. We are cantering. Our horse is balanced. IT FEELS AMAZING!
Then, smile for a week!!!!
Whatever your boogey man is for you, canter, trot, getting on, whatever it is, have fun overcoming that challenge. It makes all the difference in the world!
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I spent many hours, thinking about the first ride back after my accident. The hindsight of knowing what went wrong added even more pressure to make sure everything was right for my first ride back. That pressure felt like I was going to boil over and it held me back from just getting on and riding.
Getting back on isn't about perfect. It is about being prepared, and then getting on the horse, riding a bit and figuring out what adjustments need to be made. We can all dream about the perfect first ride back and let it hold us back from actually having that first ride.
Here are the keys to getting back on:
Knowledge: Know you and your horse are ready. Know what you will do if you need to adjust for something unexpected.
Safety: Have your safety net in place. Whether it be helmet and vest, grab strap or other safety equipment, have what works for you as your safety net in place.
Help: For me, I use essential oils, Thieves for courage and Stress Away for calm and I have them on my wrists so my olafactory senses can calm my brain or give me courage if I need it. I make sure someone is close by in case I need help. (I never have anyone hold the horse to keep them still because that tells me the horse isn't ready!), I know some people love Rescue Remedy, a shot of alcoholic beverage, or CBD. Whatever gives you the little bit of help you need for the first time back.
Most important to remember, imperfection leads to amazing joy because it takes the worry of perfection out of the equation. Take the steps to mount up and ride your horse.
I am here to help you take that first step to getting on again if you would like. I have a 3 coaching session package tailored to take the steps to ride again. Click here to see if it would be a great fit to get you back in the saddle!
You might be surprised to learn that when climbing Everest, the journey doesn’t go straight from base camp to the summit. In fact, climbers make trip after trip between camps—climbing up, then coming back down—just to acclimate. It’s not wasted time. It’s the only way to build the strength and endurance needed to reach the top.
The same principle applies to anything worth doing—especially when you’re working toward courage, confidence, and change in the saddle.
Take the first step. Then take that step again. Then take the second step. And the first and second and third—again and again. With each repetition, you build confidence, courage, and the muscle memory that brings you back to joy in riding.
What does it really mean to move forward—even when it feels like you’re backtracking or stuck on repeat? Growth isn’t linear. It’s layered. It’s sweaty, shaky, sometimes frustrating work that gets a little easier every time you show up. And let’s be real—it’s so much better than practicing sitting on the couch. Be proud of yourself for every step you take.
Whether you’re rebuilding confidence in the saddle, launching a business, or healing from a setback, your mountain might feel impossibly steep. But every step brings you closer to your own summit. And it’s okay if it doesn’t look perfect. Perfect isn’t the goal. Finding your joy is.
This is your reminder that your courage muscle strengthens every time you push past fear—even just a little. One courageous step, repeated again and again, is how you acclimate to your next level of courage.
So here’s to the climbs, the plateaus, and the moments you think about turning back—but don’t.
Because you’re not just taking steps.
You’re becoming the version of you who doesn’t stop.
Want to hear more about taking that very first step? Tune into the 100th episode of Turn Riding Fear Around: Episode 100 - READY - FIRE - AIM—and enjoy a special offer to celebrate 100 episodes!
Be the Rider Your Horse Wants You to Be
Yesterday is gone. It can’t be redone.
Tomorrow isn’t here yet—and worry is wasted energy.
Today, right now, is where the magic happens.
Tomorrow isn’t here yet—and worry is wasted energy.
Today, right now, is where the magic happens.
One of the hardest lessons on my journey to courage was learning how to simply be me, right now, in this moment. I could feel that my horse wasn’t asking for perfection—they just wanted me present. Once I embraced that, the world opened up for us to ride.
By being grounded in the now, I could sense if my horse was tense. I could catch when my own anxiety was starting to run away with me. What helped the most was leaning into the days when I felt confident and my horse felt quiet.
Those were the days I rode.
Here are a few simple ways to be the rider your horse wants today:
- Show up as you are—no pressure to be anything more or different, your horse will know.
- Feel your emotions, all of them, good and bad, instead of fighting them.
- Observe your horse without judgment.
Today might look different than yesterday—and that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with things shifting.
You might be rebuilding trust, confidence, or connection. That journey can have ups and downs.
You might be rebuilding trust, confidence, or connection. That journey can have ups and downs.
You are not behind. You are not broken. You are capable.
You are a rider—right here, right now—doing your best.
And the beautiful part?
Riding the horse you have today, and being the rider you truly are in this moment, sets the foundation for the confident rider you’re becoming.
Riding the horse you have today, and being the rider you truly are in this moment, sets the foundation for the confident rider you’re becoming.
So take a breath.
Feel your seat in the saddle.
And meet yourself—and your horse—with compassion.
Feel your seat in the saddle.
And meet yourself—and your horse—with compassion.
This moment is enough.
And so are you.
And so are you.
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