Learning how to swim was challenging for me. I remember it like it was yesterday, the struggle to stay above water even though I was just swimming a little bit further and further each time I tried. My sister learned really fast, they threw her in the deep end and held a pole out for her to reach for. Bam, one session and she was swimming. There is a whole spectrum in between. I think overcoming fear and anxiety falls onto this scale and from what I have seen, trainers are on the deep end side of things, just do it, and most of us with fear, prefer to work though it, a little bit at a time. Like "What About Bob" if you saw that great movie for overcoming fear.
The big question is how do we do this? Here are a few steps that worked for me.
1. Set a goal that feels doable. When I started overcoming my fear, my goal was to get on and take four steps. I was elated when I jumped off after 4 steps!
At some point, you have to get on. Pick a day that the horse is ready and you are ready. Don't use this as an excuse but also don't do it on a day there is lightning or winds.
2. Figure out what the best day will be and do it. Get on and accomplish your goal and then celebrate.
3. Get help if you want. Alicia Dickinson is a Grand Prix Dressage rider and when she takes a new horse out on the first hack, she has someone lead it. She makes safety a priority. Don't feel bad if you need a little help. I would make sure the horse is great for mounting and standing still, don't have someone holding the horse dancing around to mount. That is a recipe for more fear. Having someone put a lead rope on and just walk with you will boost your confidence. I give you permission.
4. Use safety equipment if it makes you feel better. I ride with a helmet, my Sea Doo life jacket, and a neck strap to grab onto.
Figure out your baby steps, plan them, and then most importantly, DO THEM!
If you want to hear me talking about "Deep End vs. Tiny Steps", it is on my latest podcast you can find here:
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