As I walked the course for my first time at 1.2M jumpers, I could feel the excitement but also the anxiety building fast. These jumps looked bigger than me. Was I ready? Could I do this? I was actually terrified. I felt okay warming up, and Atticus was jumping great. But as soon as I walked into the arena, the tension hit me hard. I felt tighter than a garage door spring.
I can't believe we made it over all the fences, but it wasn’t pretty. My horse jumped his heart out for me, and looking back, I was YELLING at him. I was so tense; I was holding the reins with a death grip. My legs were locked tight on his side. I was yelling through my own anxiety, giving off all the wrong signals. Reflecting on that ride, I learned a lot about myself, and most importantly, I learned that communication with horses doesn’t need to be loud. It can be done in a whisper.
Here are three tips to start connecting with your horse in a whisper:
1. Breathe: The most important thing to do when anxiety hits is to focus on your breath. Take deep, steady breaths to calm your body and mind. Horses are incredibly sensitive to their rider's emotions, so if you're calm, they will be too. By letting go of your anxiety in your exhale, you can whisper confidence to your horse.
2. Soft Hands: Instead of gripping the reins, focus on maintaining a soft contact with your horse. A gentle hand will allow you to guide them without tension. Remember, a quiet hand speaks volumes.
3. Relax Your Body: Your horse feels every movement. By relaxing your legs, your seat, and your arms, you’re sending the message that you trust your horse. A relaxed body means a relaxed ride and whispering communication.
I learned the hard way that holding on tight only makes things worse. But with patience, breathing, and a calm connection, you and your horse can move through anything—quietly, confidently, and with trust.
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