Michelle and I were standing in the shade of a big tree, watching a session at the clinic. It was one of the hottest days of summer, and Michelle had dozed off, resting peacefully. The guy sitting next to us finished his bottle of water and crushed it, and suddenly, Michelle jolted awake. She leaped so high that it looked like she might get stuck in the tree!
This moment reminded me of a few important things: the fear was perceived, not real; that water bottle wouldn’t have eaten her! It highlighted a gap in her emotional well-being—a fear of loud, unexpected noises. I realized how similar this was to our fears about riding. Could this experience be used to help us, just as I helped her overcome her fear?
Here’s what I found that can help you transform fear into courage:
1. Practice Perceived Fear and Remaining Calm: I turned to YouTube and started watching short clips of horses loping with riders. As my fear began to surface, I focused on remaining calm. I practiced feeling my calm flow into the horses’ calm. I examined my fears and triggers, watching these clips while envisioning how I would handle those situations—safely seated in my chair.
2. Use the 80/20 Technique: Inspired by Alicia Dickinson, I practiced the 80/20 method, which involves putting 80% of your weight in your stirrups and 20% through the rest of your legs and seat. I practiced sitting on the edge of a chair, on an exercise ball, and finally on my horse. This sturdy feeling really helped turn my fear of falling into confidence, as it felt like I was just standing on solid ground, balanced.
3. Plan for Your Fears: Create a list of your fears and triggers, then plan how you would handle each one. Practice this plan until you feel confidence growing and fear fading away.
4. Implement Your Practice: Once you’ve practiced, it’s time to get back in the saddle! Make adjustments as needed, continuing to build your tools for confidence. With each step, you’ll find your fears becoming smaller and smaller.
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