There are some powerful tools out there to start the healing journey. Whether it is physical or mental, the mental healing can always aid the physical healing. Our minds are more powerful than most of us realize. Self talk, is one of the worst for keeping us from healing. I hurt. I'm tired. I don't feel good. There are so many of these words we tell ourselves or even share out loud without thinking about the power of the words. We are basically telling our brain, keep us feeling bad!
I had a friend that used to say all the time, "I am dying to have a baby". It made most of us uncomfortable she put so much passion into what she was saying. She died giving birth to her little girl, left without a mom. I WAS SHOCKED through my sadness.
It is so easy to get into the habit of looking and feeling, using words for right now. Help is on the way! I have a practice that helps pull us out of the pain and misery.
Start by thinking 12 months ahead, and how do you want to feel. AMAZING I am sure! Healthy, pain free, great energy and ready to dance through life. Write down, on a piece of paper you can keep in front of you, "I remember that day, 12 months ago, when I didn't see hope to be free from pain. I remember that day with so much compassion. I remember that was the day, that I started to feel better. I felt better and better every day after that day. Today, I feel amazing but I will always be grateful to remember that day, that I changed my thoughts." As you read your statement, picture the feeling you will have 12 months in the future and really feel how good that feels. Do this 4 or 5 times a day for a year!!!! You will be amazed!
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I am going to share the most powerful secret I have learned recently.
I was sitting on the edge of the bed, trying to put my socks on and I was STIFF. I didn't feel amazing.
When I was 5, I had invited my aunts to sit with me on the floor to play a board game, and they declined saying that they would hurt. I vowed to never let that happen to me.
Have you ever felt that twinge, that reaching for something and you think...ohhh, that didn't feel so good?
You start to have those thoughts of "I am getting older, it is normal" creeping in. You realize that you have put on a little weight, in areas that you don't want to have added weight. Your joints creek a little more than they used to.
This right here, STOPPED ME IN MY TRACKS. I remembered that vow I had made, and thought, wow, I am my aunts. I had to figure out how to get back to feeling like that kid again, physically.
I tried EVERYTHING. Keto, whole foods, paleo, intermittent fasting, more sleep, more exercise, I felt like I had tried everything, and I did feel better, a little bit, but I still didn't feel like I did when I was a kid.
I realized that riding my horses was also not feeling like it did as a kid. It was a little harder to get on, a little less balance, a little less flexibility. My hands on the reins hurt a little and I couldn't even put on my wedding ring my knuckle was so swollen.
I have a friend in her 80's still jumping and another lady running 100-mile ultra marathons and doing great. I knew I had to get it figured out. One way or another.
Do you have friends that are just like the energizer bunny and you haven't figured out what they are doing? It was really having me feel down.
Then, in January 2023, I found the SECRET. I signed up for the 11-day Jumpstart. The coach was doing the program for free and I just had to get the supplement. I had tried the supplement for a few years and loved it but it hadn't given me the results I wanted. Our amazing coach, and support group, had put together a program that changed everything. It is a lot like preloading supplements for our horses! It is also like putting the best nutrients into our bodies at the right times of day.
What would you do first if your body felt like you did as a kid? What would your horse think if you got on and your horse didn't have to compensate for you. Can you imagine, going into your golden years, feeling just like you did as a kid?
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I am going to share the most powerful secret I learned over 30 years ago!
I was sitting there, one cold December morning, sipping my Latte, my fancy journal and my favorite pen, ready to write my New Years Resolution, when all of a sudden, the WAVE of feeling like a failure, washed over me. I had failed every New Years resolution I had ever set.
It didn't matter what they were, I had failed them all. Going to the gym 5 times a week, Eating Healthy. Running 5 mornings a week, not one. I was a failure. If you have ever failed a new years resolution, you are not alone.
As I sat there, reflecting back on those failures, I began to dig. What did I want from those resolutions? The more I contemplated, the start of a tiny light began to glow. They would make me healthy. Ok, But what did I get from being healthy? I would be happy, I would be Joyful!!!
That is when I hit on the secret, it wasn't about the actions, it was about the feeling. The feeling of joy!
When was the last time you felt joy, true joy? Take yourself back to the last time you truly felt joy. For me, it was when I was a kid!
Why did I feel joyful as a kid? I LAUGHED. All day. At everything. How could I turn that into a resolution? I needed to set a goal to LAUGH 400 times a day, big enough not to measure, I am an Engineer and like to measure, and also big enough to keep me striving for joy!
As riders, our mental state is so important and the more we can find our joy, the more our horses don't have to carry our mental burden when we are with them. The more they can enjoy us and not just tune us out. You know, it might be the same with our family and friends. Imagine being around someone that is filled with joy, that would feel good!
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To carry on with my thoughts from the other day, Fear to Courage FB Group Post!
It really got me thinking, how common are horse accidents? I did quite a bit of research and there are a lot of different ways to look at it. I like the study from OSU extension office. It was based on 1000 hours of participation in sports versus injury. I actually was a little shocked to see that riding was just ahead of cycling, swimming and golf, and behind everything else! Football was the worst, baseball and downhill skiing were more injuries than horseback riding.
Some of the things that I found really interesting in my research are that the oldest participants in most Olympics are the riders. This means that even at this level of competition, there is a lot of success as we age. When I was young, I had dreams of competing at the Olympics and I remember the Los Angeles games and my trainer got to be ring crew. I was so excited to watch the ground crew! I didn't have enough talent to get to that level of competition, but it sure did look amazing. I love that it is one of the few sports that men and women compete against each other, the horses are the equalizer.
So back to how common are horse accidents. More research showed that with the safety measures that are now in place, the MIPS helmets, vests, etc, the severity of the injuries has been reduced. This is great news. I know I love my MIPS helmet! It fits amazing. This is the one I have and love! Click here to check it out!
What about compared to other things, not sports related? It was a lot harder to find research, so I am just going with my experience. I have had 5 or 6 concussions. None of these were riding. One was horse related when I was picking out feet and stood up under the cross bar in the cross ties and knocked myself out and gave myself a concussion. I have not had any broken bones (knock on wood) but if I had, it would have been from a number of things not horse related. Skiing has been my biggest downfall. I had to have surgery on my knee and had my neck severely damaged from being hit by a snowmobile.
I am going to share more on my thoughts on how all of these ties into our fear and why horses cause us anxiety when the other stuff may or may not have the same impact. I still ski after my accidents. I still pick out feet after my accident (and even learned to trim). I still drive after my accidents that were not my fault.
This is a very interesting question, and I am sure there are a million answers. Just as with all life, the most critical fear is dying. In a lot of ways, they are blessed. They don't have to be afraid of losing their job, losing their money, IRS tax audit, or any of the other fears and stresses that humans put on themselves. They have one mission, to live through the day.
Their fears stem from anything that is new, that they need to figure out if it is going to kill them. I was standing near the horses one day in the pasture, when a plastic bag went blowing on the wind, all around them and under their legs. They didn't move. When I saw it coming, my fear level went up, and they all started to react, but when I saw this, I just completely relaxed, and they did too. They were not afraid of the bag. They were afraid that I might be afraid of the bag.
Horses survival depends on not being the horse that is most afraid, but they need to not be the slowest to react. The horse that is not in tune to the rest of the herd and danger vibes, will be the horse that doesn't make it, that is food for the predator.
Are they afraid of the predator? No. This shocked me. A friend of mine was working Africa and had the great opportunity to observe lions and the herds. The lions would walk right through the herds to the water and back and nobody would even raise their head. They were not afraid of the lions. Then, when the lioness would start to hunt, at the moment that the first herd animal felt that energy, the warning would go out, and they would all run.
They were not afraid of the predator; they were afraid of the energy of being hunted. This is useful information. We can be that calm leader, that doesn't jump at every little thing, and our horses will start to see us as leader and trust us to keep them safe. The more our energy is calm and aware, the more the horse can relax and let us lead. Wishy washy, anxiety, and fear are not the energies of a leader.
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