When I was young, I couldn't wait to be older! I loved riding as a kid and would go anywhere and do anything. As an adult, I have enjoyed so many hours of riding. Jumping and competing are by far my favorite but there is a lot of stress built in to that. I recently heard a quote from an eventing superstar (sorry, I don't remember which one, and I am paraphrasing), being asked about when do you get to the level the nerves stop. His answer was - they don't ever stop. You say thank you for keeping me safe, get on and go enjoy your ride, knowing that the nerves mean well but they don't bring you the joy, the riding does.
I also know that the feelings of excitement, when you get to do something really fun, feel almost identical to the butterflies of nerves. When I learned this, it was life changing. Why not shift the meaning I put behind the butterflies to excitement instead of nerves? It is my choice, right?
We have so many opportunities to enjoy life and we have to grab onto those opportunities and embrace them. Riders have the added benefit that riding fills us up with not only great feelings, but we can go into these amazing golden years filling up with empowerment! We are so much wiser than we were as kids and I know I must have almost killed my horses at least a hundred times and I know better now.
One of the keys to riding with confidence after 50 is embracing the wisdom that comes with our age! Over the years, we accumulate a wealth of knowledge and experience that improves our riding and enhances our understanding of horses. By drawing on this wisdom, we can approach riding with a greater sense of confidence and self-assurance, knowing that we have the skills and expertise to handle whatever challenges may arise. We have more finese and knowledge to do things better for our horses. As a community, riders have taken leaps and bounds in knowledge of our horses and their welfare just in the last 10 years. We have evolved!
The second key is that riding keeps us physically healthy. It helps our flexibility, strength, and balance if we focus on it while we ride. That is beautiful to age with grace and I know I feel younger and younger as I get to ride more.
The third key is that we have a huge horse friend community, whether in person or online. We have a support system that is world wide. We can even take lessons from trainers around the world if we want.
I would love to have you join our small support group! It is for everyone. We are either getting over fear or cheering on the rest of us and would love to have you! Join group here!
As riders, our relationship with fear evolves over time, particularly as we enter new stages of life. For those of us riding after 50, fear can take on a different dimension, influenced by both our accumulated experiences and the physical realities of aging. The accidents or the anticipation of accidents becomes more accute. There is hope! We can navigate fear and continue to enjoy the beauty and freedom of horseback riding well into our later years. I had a friend that had never ridden and bought her first horse when she was mid 50's and went on to be a great jumper rider. It gave me a lot of courage to know if she can do it, so can I!
One key aspect to riding after 50 is acknowledging and honoring our fears. It's natural to feel apprehensive about riding as we age, especially if we've experienced accidents or injuries in the past. Instead of dismissing or suppressing these fears, we can choose to embrace them with compassion and curiosity. By embracing our fears without judgment, we create space courage and growth.
Another essential component of riding after 50 is prioritizing self-care and physical well-being. As we age, our bodies may require more care and attention to maintain strength, flexibility, and balance. Incorporating healthy eating habits, exercise (remember when you were a kid?), can help support our physical health and enhance our riding performance. The better we feel before we get on the horse, the more energy we will have and the better we will feel when we get off the horse!
Furthermore, fostering a supportive community can be invaluable for riders navigating fear after 50. Surrounding ourselves with like-minded individuals who understand and empathize with our experiences can provide a sense of belonging and encouragement. There is a small community for support that I host and if you would like to check it out, here is the link: Join the support group!
Summing it all up, navigating fear and riding after 50 requires a mindful approach that encompasses self-awareness, self-care, and community support. By embracing our fears with compassion, prioritizing our physical well-being, and fostering connections with others, we can continue to enjoy the joys and challenges of horseback riding well into our later years. With a mindful approach, riding after 50 can be a fulfilling and enriching experience that brings us closer to ourselves and our equine companions.
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The sun on my face, the breeze in the mane, feeling the horse beneath me, partnering with me on adventures, whether it is in the arena jumping or out on the trails, the feelings of connection with the horse are precious and unique. Horseback riding provides a wealth of psychological benefits that contribute to overall well-being and mental health. From reducing stress and anxiety to boosting confidence and self-esteem, the psychological advantages of horseback riding are both profound and diverse.
Here are 4 ways horseback riding boots mental health:
1. A key psychological benefit of horseback riding is its ability to promote relaxation and reduce stress. I know, for those of us with fear, it doesn't seem like it, but remember back to your first rides and how good you felt after you dismounted. Spending time with horses and engaging in the rhythmic motion of riding can have a calming effect on the nervous system, lowering cortisol levels and inducing a state of relaxation. The peacefulness of nature and the bond formed between rider and horse further enhance this sense of tranquility, providing a welcome escape from the pressures of daily life.
2. Riding is a great way to alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression. The physical activity involved in riding stimulates the release of endorphins, neurotransmitters known as the body's natural mood elevators, your feel good stuff. Riding makes you feel better.
3. The sense of accomplishment and mastery that comes with mastering new riding skills can also boost self-confidence and self-esteem, helping riders feel more empowered and in control of their lives. I know for me, the more I have worked on my courage riding, the more confident and the better I feel in all areas of my life.
4. Horseback riding fosters a sense of connection and companionship, both with the horse and with fellow riders. The bond formed between rider and horse is based on trust, mutual respect, and nonverbal communication, providing a unique form of emotional support and companionship. Riding in a group setting also fosters a sense of camaraderie and belonging, allowing riders to connect with others who share their passion for horses and the outdoors. My communication with my husband has improved with my improved communications with my horses. I understand so much more about two way communication and more important, listening!
Overall, the psychological benefits of horseback riding are numerous and far-reaching. Whether it's reducing stress and anxiety, boosting confidence and self-esteem, or fostering connections with others, horseback riding offers a holistic approach to mental well-being that enriches the lives of riders of all ages and abilities.
If you are looking for a great support community, join our group on fear and courage riding. We can help you with your fear or you can cheer us on as we gain our courage! Join Here!
Riding around in the Junior Hunters Under Saddle as a kid, I remember all the people placed all around the rail just whispering to me "Breathe" as I rode by. They already had put Vaseline on my front teeth so my smile would be there but the breathing they had to keep telling me, over and over. I would hold my breath. I would continue to hold my breath. I would almost pass out holding my breath. Why? I was so afraid. When fear creeps in, we hold our breath or the other extreme of hyperventilating (which I used to do when I have to have blood drawn).
The great thing about learning breathing techniques is that they work for just about everything. They can be practiced sitting on your couch or front porch. You can gradually introduce them to areas in your life that bring you anxiety (or even just visualize those things and use breathing to calm down). Here are my favorites:
1. Ferris Wheel Breathing - so many people talk about box breathing but I like to picture a Ferris wheel with breathing in, going up and then exhaling while going down and just picturing that circle as even as possible. The reason I like this better is it gives me more things to focus on. I can visualize the Ferris wheel as I am breathing. When I am visualizing and breathing circular, a feeling of calm comes over me. If you don't like Ferris wheels, you can use a Carousel. These are both great for really slowing and calming the breathing.
2. Hum, Talk, or Sing. Sing a song. Hum a song. Whatever is your favorite for vocalizing. You can't hold your breath and do any of these things. Singing a song is my favorite since I also have to think about the words. The brain can't be focused on fear and focused on the words to a song at the same time. Even something like 99 bottles of beer on the wall is good because you have to think of the numbers while singing and breathing.
3. Play a game like "I'm taking a trip and I pack...." or "I Spy". Play games that you have to talk with your horse. I even like the “I am taking a trip” and I pack something and then something my horse would pack, like carrots, back and forth. So much fun and you can't hold your breath while talking and playing a game out loud. The "I Spy" has the added benefit of having you keep your eyes up and your focus on where you are going. Here is a video I did sharing how I play the games: Check out the video!
Play with your breathing and see what works best for you. You can do this sitting at home and play with it until it feels natural and then start introducing it when you feel your anxiety coming up.
If you liked the ideas, here are some ideas for other games to play with your horses! Get Energy Games Here!
I am CHEERING! We are out the other side of that crazy cold spell. I carried 50-60 gallons of water a day. Pushed 200 pounds of hay a day in a wheelbarrow through 8 inches of snow. Pulled the flipping wheelbarrow back up the LONG hill to the barn after I had offloaded the hay. Unloaded a trailer of 100 bales of hay and stacked 6 high in the barn in 20 degree F. I would not trade this for anything. It was BEAUTIFUL!!!! I was surprised myself by how hot I stayed! I just felt like I blossomed. I am stronger mentally and physically than I could have ever imagined. I know there are a bunch of you with way worse winters and I applaud you and cheer you on.
We can eagerly anticipate the arrival of spring, signaling the start of more comfortable riding conditions. However, before you saddle up and hit the trails, preparation can make it a successful riding season. Here are a few things I do:
1. Health Check for Your Horse: All our horses are looking forward to spring with us!! We have horses in all different conditions coming out of winter and I know we will all do a great job of looking at our horse’s health needs and get them ready for spring!
2. Gradual Exercise Routine: Reintroduce your horse (and you) to regular exercise gradually. My favorite is to start hiking with them. Play with flexibility and balance for both of you on your walks if you can. It is so much fun to see horses really blossom getting ready for spring. This helps us get into shape together.
3. Assess and Update Tack: Inspect all riding equipment for wear and tear. Check all your tack and saddle fit to ensure they are comfortable for your horse. Clean and condition leather items to maintain their longevity. Replace any damaged or unsafe equipment promptly. Make sure your helmet is less than 5 years old and if you don’t have a MIPS helmet, I highly recommend this one. I love it. (Click here to check it out.)
4. Rider Fitness and Skills: Just like your horse, it's essential to assess your own fitness level. Engage in exercises that improve core strength, balance, and flexibility. Consider taking refresher riding lessons to sharpen your skills and regain confidence in the saddle after the winter hiatus.
5. Spring Grooming Routine: Give your horse thorough grooming sessions to promote a healthy, shiny coat. Check for any skin issues, such as scratches, thrush, or dermatitis, and address them promptly. Regular grooming not only enhances your horse's appearance but also fosters a strong bond between you and your horse.
By addressing these key areas, you set the stage for a successful and enjoyable spring riding season.
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