Overcoming the Fear of Judgment!
In today’s world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of constantly measuring ourselves against others. I remember riding in a clinic, with several talented young riders, and I couldn’t help but feel defeated as I tried to keep up. Despite my frustration, I completed every jump as instructed, and the jumping itself felt great. But the tension of trying to be perfect—of comparing myself to others—was overwhelming.

We fear being judged for not being perfect, and this fear creates tension. In riding, it’s common to feel like you’re being judged by trainers, fellow riders, or even your own past expectations. This fear can hold us back, preventing us from fully enjoying the journey. But the truth is, relaxation and peace come from embracing your own unique journey, not by measuring yourself against someone else.  It is all about you and your horse and improving that relationship.

When we focus too much on what others think, we become paralyzed by their opinions. We might ask ourselves: "Am I doing this right? What will they think? What if I fail?" This mindset, centered on judgment and perfection, adds stress and stops us from truly enjoying the process. Instead of celebrating progress, we get caught in a cycle of fear and self-doubt.

The truth is, you don’t need to be perfect. Perfection is an illusion. What matters is that you’re growing, learning, and trying. Every step forward, no matter how small, is progress. By pursuing your riding goals, you’re doing something extraordinary—many people never take that leap. But you? You’re out there riding, pushing forward, and that’s something to be proud of.

Relaxation comes when we let go of the need to meet external standards and focus on personal growth. You are unique. Your path is unique. As you continue to grow, the tension from judgment will fade. Celebrate small victories—whether it’s mastering a new skill or overcoming fear—and you’ll find more confidence and ease in the saddle. You’re not here to be perfect; you’re here to be authentic, present, and to follow your dreams, no matter where they take you.

So, the next time you feel the fear of judgment creeping in, remember this: you are enough just as you are. Your journey is yours alone. Relax into that truth and let go of the need for perfection. You’re already doing something incredible by showing up and striving for more and riding your horse.

If you're ready to let go of the pressure of perfection and embrace your unique journey, I invite you to join my Mind-Body Connection Webinar on January 25th, 2025. In this session, we’ll explore how to connect with your horse—and yourself—on a deeper level, helping you ride with more ease, confidence, and presence. Can't make it live? No worries! There is an option to purchase the replay.




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Hey there! I’m Elise Hittinger—Fear Slayer, Confidence Creator, and your go-to Courage Coach.

 
Once upon a time, I was that fearless kid riding deep into Angeles National Forest without a second thought. Then bam—life threw me a plot twist. A horse flipped on me, pinning me beneath it, and fear crept in like an uninvited guest who wouldn’t leave.

That moment tested everything. But here’s the wild part—I walked away with only bruises and a divine reminder that I wasn’t done yet. Fear may have stolen my joy for a while, but it did not get the final say.

Fast forward to a move to Kentucky, where the trails were calling my name. I had two choices: let fear keep the reins or take them back. Spoiler alert—I took them back. Now, I help other riders (and, honestly, anyone sick of fear running their life) do the same.

I make fear pack its little bags and GTFO. Whether it’s through hypnotherapy, NLP, or a little well-placed humor, I help people trade anxiety for confidence, doubt for courage, and overthinking for action.

So, if you’re ready to kick fear to the curb and rediscover the joy you deserve—I’m here for it. Let’s do this.

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