Riding around in the Junior Hunters Under Saddle as a kid, I remember all the people placed all around the rail just whispering to me "Breathe" as I rode by. They already had put Vaseline on my front teeth so my smile would be there but the breathing they had to keep telling me, over and over. I would hold my breath. I would continue to hold my breath. I would almost pass out holding my breath. Why? I was so afraid. When fear creeps in, we hold our breath or the other extreme of hyperventilating (which I used to do when I have to have blood drawn).
The great thing about learning breathing techniques is that they work for just about everything. They can be practiced sitting on your couch or front porch. You can gradually introduce them to areas in your life that bring you anxiety (or even just visualize those things and use breathing to calm down). Here are my favorites:
1. Ferris Wheel Breathing - so many people talk about box breathing but I like to picture a Ferris wheel with breathing in, going up and then exhaling while going down and just picturing that circle as even as possible. The reason I like this better is it gives me more things to focus on. I can visualize the Ferris wheel as I am breathing. When I am visualizing and breathing circular, a feeling of calm comes over me. If you don't like Ferris wheels, you can use a Carousel. These are both great for really slowing and calming the breathing.
2. Hum, Talk, or Sing. Sing a song. Hum a song. Whatever is your favorite for vocalizing. You can't hold your breath and do any of these things. Singing a song is my favorite since I also have to think about the words. The brain can't be focused on fear and focused on the words to a song at the same time. Even something like 99 bottles of beer on the wall is good because you have to think of the numbers while singing and breathing.
3. Play a game like "I'm taking a trip and I pack...." or "I Spy". Play games that you have to talk with your horse. I even like the “I am taking a trip” and I pack something and then something my horse would pack, like carrots, back and forth. So much fun and you can't hold your breath while talking and playing a game out loud. The "I Spy" has the added benefit of having you keep your eyes up and your focus on where you are going. Here is a video I did sharing how I play the games: Check out the video!
Play with your breathing and see what works best for you. You can do this sitting at home and play with it until it feels natural and then start introducing it when you feel your anxiety coming up.
If you liked the ideas, here are some ideas for other games to play with your horses! Get Energy Games Here!
I am CHEERING! We are out the other side of that crazy cold spell. I carried 50-60 gallons of water a day. Pushed 200 pounds of hay a day in a wheelbarrow through 8 inches of snow. Pulled the flipping wheelbarrow back up the LONG hill to the barn after I had offloaded the hay. Unloaded a trailer of 100 bales of hay and stacked 6 high in the barn in 20 degree F. I would not trade this for anything. It was BEAUTIFUL!!!! I was surprised myself by how hot I stayed! I just felt like I blossomed. I am stronger mentally and physically than I could have ever imagined. I know there are a bunch of you with way worse winters and I applaud you and cheer you on.
We can eagerly anticipate the arrival of spring, signaling the start of more comfortable riding conditions. However, before you saddle up and hit the trails, preparation can make it a successful riding season. Here are a few things I do:
1. Health Check for Your Horse: All our horses are looking forward to spring with us!! We have horses in all different conditions coming out of winter and I know we will all do a great job of looking at our horse’s health needs and get them ready for spring!
2. Gradual Exercise Routine: Reintroduce your horse (and you) to regular exercise gradually. My favorite is to start hiking with them. Play with flexibility and balance for both of you on your walks if you can. It is so much fun to see horses really blossom getting ready for spring. This helps us get into shape together.
3. Assess and Update Tack: Inspect all riding equipment for wear and tear. Check all your tack and saddle fit to ensure they are comfortable for your horse. Clean and condition leather items to maintain their longevity. Replace any damaged or unsafe equipment promptly. Make sure your helmet is less than 5 years old and if you don’t have a MIPS helmet, I highly recommend this one. I love it. (Click here to check it out.)
4. Rider Fitness and Skills: Just like your horse, it's essential to assess your own fitness level. Engage in exercises that improve core strength, balance, and flexibility. Consider taking refresher riding lessons to sharpen your skills and regain confidence in the saddle after the winter hiatus.
5. Spring Grooming Routine: Give your horse thorough grooming sessions to promote a healthy, shiny coat. Check for any skin issues, such as scratches, thrush, or dermatitis, and address them promptly. Regular grooming not only enhances your horse's appearance but also fosters a strong bond between you and your horse.
By addressing these key areas, you set the stage for a successful and enjoyable spring riding season.
Grab my spring checklist so you have it handy! (Click here and I will email it to you.)
Winter is a time to rest, recuperate, and rejuvenate to get ready for spring riding. I remember sitting there on the edge of the bed, struggling to put my socks on and it was like a slap in the face. I was becoming "that" person. The one that couldn't sit on the floor and play board games. The one that made the "oof" sound getting on my horse. The one that just didn't feel so good anymore, I was feeling old. Like many of you, this stuff creeps up slowly, inch by inch, to steel our joy.
I knew I wanted to go into my senior years enjoying riding and part of that was flexibility, balance, and energy but how?
I tried EVERYTHING. Some things helped, some things didn't help and some things were AMAZING.
Flexibility - this started with healthy eating. I got rid of grains and refined sugar and this helped some. I worked on doing things like lifting my knee to my chest, alternating this while I was doing dishes. I played with lunges and side lunges to stretch my inner thigh. I just played with flexibility and movement. I was actually shocked to find out that I could not move my arms like a bird flying but I could move them like a swimmer. It took me some time to get my bird flying shoulders going again. The more I moved, the more I could move.
Balance - this one again I play with. I will see how long I can stand on one leg (practicing with both legs) while brushing my teeth or folding clothes. Chores became a great time to play with balance. Could I load the dishwasher standing on one leg or the other without falling over. This also improved my strength.
Energy - this was by far the most challenging and the most recently solved. I didn't feel like working on balance, flexibility and riding again. It just seemed to take too much energy. The diet helped but wasn't the whole thing. I had to add in a coaching program (more information here if interested) that changed it all and put all the pieces together. The coaching linked the anti-inflammation, the dehydration, the energy, the brain fog, the balance, flexibility and boy do I feel AMAZING!!!! When all the pieces come together, just like a gorgeous jigsaw puzzle, You want to keep feeling better each day and the call to ride returns. It has been missing for me for a while. I love the horses but haven't been called to ride and now I am feeling like I want to get everything lined up and ready to start riding this spring.
I will be documenting my journey back to riding (I hope) with my new podcast starting episodes I am working on now. I will have more information coming soon!
I was climbing down from the step stool in the rabbit area and just as I was stepping off, I panicked! My subconscious realized I would be stepping onto a snake. In the blink of an eye, my body was able to redirect my step to miss the snake. This triggered a number of thoughts for me.
1. My fear was subconscious. I didn't "think" there is a snake and jump, my body just did it and my mind caught up after the fact.
2. The fear was not in my mind. It turned out it was just a skin the snake had shed so I was not in real danger but my subconscious didn't know that.
3.. Fear doesn't take a vacation. I am not afraid of snakes, but I did jump at this to keep me safe. It happened on Thanksgiving day. My fear didn't take the day off for the holiday.
4.. Fear can take place anywhere, anytime. Fear doesn't care if you are sitting on the couch thinking about something that happened, or that it is really happening. Even now as I write about the snake I thought I saw, my heart rate and breathing rate go up. I am sitting on my couch.
Fear takes place in our subconscious first. It might be triggered by our thoughts, like me sitting on the couch writing this or it may be triggered by our senses but we don't think "I am going to be scared" and then be scared. Our subconscious takes over and keeps us safe, whether perceived, imaginary, or real fear.
This give us POWER. We get to choose to think about amazing, positive things so that at least the perceived and imaginary fear can leave us alone. We do have control of our mind and we can practice. Just like putting training wheels on a bicycle, we can practice courage and joy. We can change it around so that fear only takes place when it is actually keeping us safe. We don't want to ignore fear, but honor it, act if necessary, and move into courage and calm if we don't need to react.
Let's practice together!
1. Find a place to sit comfortably.
2.Think of the last thing that scared you that wasn't a big deal, just a little scare.
3. Observe your mind and body: Feel your breathing and your heart rate. Did they increase with the recall of the memory? Notice if how you feel changed. Did your anxiety increase?
4. Now, think about something calming for you or play some calming music.
5. Observe your mind and body as before.
6. Repeat until you can easily bring your feelings back to calm and courage. Then, you can increase the pressure from your memories or the "what if's" from the future.
7. Get really good and feeling the anxiety and fear, and calming back down.
If you would like to read my journey from fear to courage that is filled with ways to help you find your courage, grab my book now! CLICK HERE!
To carry on with my thoughts from the other day, Fear to Courage FB Group Post!
It really got me thinking, how common are horse accidents? I did quite a bit of research and there are a lot of different ways to look at it. I like the study from OSU extension office. It was based on 1000 hours of participation in sports versus injury. I actually was a little shocked to see that riding was just ahead of cycling, swimming and golf, and behind everything else! Football was the worst, baseball and downhill skiing were more injuries than horseback riding.
Some of the things that I found really interesting in my research are that the oldest participants in most Olympics are the riders. This means that even at this level of competition, there is a lot of success as we age. When I was young, I had dreams of competing at the Olympics and I remember the Los Angeles games and my trainer got to be ring crew. I was so excited to watch the ground crew! I didn't have enough talent to get to that level of competition, but it sure did look amazing. I love that it is one of the few sports that men and women compete against each other, the horses are the equalizer.
So back to how common are horse accidents. More research showed that with the safety measures that are now in place, the MIPS helmets, vests, etc, the severity of the injuries has been reduced. This is great news. I know I love my MIPS helmet! It fits amazing. This is the one I have and love! Click here to check it out!
What about compared to other things, not sports related? It was a lot harder to find research, so I am just going with my experience. I have had 5 or 6 concussions. None of these were riding. One was horse related when I was picking out feet and stood up under the cross bar in the cross ties and knocked myself out and gave myself a concussion. I have not had any broken bones (knock on wood) but if I had, it would have been from a number of things not horse related. Skiing has been my biggest downfall. I had to have surgery on my knee and had my neck severely damaged from being hit by a snowmobile.
I am going to share more on my thoughts on how all of these ties into our fear and why horses cause us anxiety when the other stuff may or may not have the same impact. I still ski after my accidents. I still pick out feet after my accident (and even learned to trim). I still drive after my accidents that were not my fault.
