That day, I just couldn't get on and join the trail ride with my friends. They were all yelling at me, "Just get on! Come with us! Nothing is going to happen." But the fear held me back. I sat there in tears as they rode out together, watching them go while my horse stood next to me, all tacked up and ready.
I did eventually ride in the arena, tears streaming down my face. In that moment, it was just me, my wonderful horse, and my overwhelming fear. Despite being there with my trusted companion, I felt utterly alone.
Like many of you, horse riders are often seen as strong and resilient. We don't want others to see our vulnerabilities, especially when it comes to fear. Our trainers and friends might not truly understand what we're going through.
Here are a few tips:
Recognize your fear and honor it. It is there to keep you safe. You don't have to give in to it but by recognizing it and thanking it, it loses some of its power.
Acknowledge that you are strong, and you also have a wide range of emotions to be felt and expressed. Not everyone is going to understand your emotions and being able to communicate them is important and it is also important to listen to your friends and trainers and take in what they are saying. Acknowledge that they mean well and see things from a different perspective. See if there are nuggets you can use from what they are saying.
Practice self-compassion. To me, this means loving ourselves even though we have fear. It is natural. It attempts to keep us safe in the best way possible. We can slowly breakdown our fear and adjust it, bit by bit, so that we can rebuild our courage from our compassion.
Most importantly, know that you are not alone.
You can listen to my thought on this in my latest podcast you can listen to here! Turn Riding Fear Around.
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