How do I stop being nervous around horses?
For fearful riders, building trust with a horse can be both daunting and rewarding. One of the most powerful ways to establish this bond is through grooming. It’s not just about cleanliness; grooming fosters a deeper connection and understanding between rider and horse.

Grooming sessions provide a safe space for both horse and rider to relax and communicate non-verbally. As you gently brush your horse’s coat, you begin to understand their body language and responses. This mutual interaction builds confidence and trust on both sides.  Ask them to move a foot or pick it up.  Gently have them step away from you so you can reach a different spot. Play with them while brushing them.

For the rider experiencing fear or anxiety, grooming offers a soothing routine that grounds them in the present moment. The rhythmic strokes of the brush and the horse’s calming presence create a sense of peace and stability. As you focus on caring for your horse, worries diminish, replaced by a sense of purpose and companionship.

Moreover, grooming allows riders to observe and appreciate their horse’s physical condition. By noticing subtle changes in the coat, skin, and muscles, riders become more attuned to their horse’s well-being. This awareness not only strengthens the bond but also enhances the rider’s ability to detect any potential health issues early on.

Beyond the physical benefits, grooming nurtures emotional connections. The quiet moments spent grooming encourage reflection and mindfulness, promoting a positive mindset before and after riding sessions. Over time, as trust grows between horse and rider through these shared experiences, fear diminishes, replaced by a sense of partnership and mutual respect.

I love putting a huge pile of good hay in front of the horse so they can feel satisfied and fill their belly while I groom.  I can hear the soothing sounds of munching and smell the wonderful aroma of good hay.  The horses can really relax with their head down while I groom.

This blog emphasizes the therapeutic and bonding aspects of grooming for fearful riders, aiming to reassure and inspire confidence through the simple yet profound act of caring for your horse.

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Hey there! I’m Elise Hittinger—Fear Slayer, Confidence Creator, and your go-to Courage Coach.

 
Once upon a time, I was that fearless kid riding deep into Angeles National Forest without a second thought. Then bam—life threw me a plot twist. A horse flipped on me, pinning me beneath it, and fear crept in like an uninvited guest who wouldn’t leave.

That moment tested everything. But here’s the wild part—I walked away with only bruises and a divine reminder that I wasn’t done yet. Fear may have stolen my joy for a while, but it did not get the final say.

Fast forward to a move to Kentucky, where the trails were calling my name. I had two choices: let fear keep the reins or take them back. Spoiler alert—I took them back. Now, I help other riders (and, honestly, anyone sick of fear running their life) do the same.

I make fear pack its little bags and GTFO. Whether it’s through hypnotherapy, NLP, or a little well-placed humor, I help people trade anxiety for confidence, doubt for courage, and overthinking for action.

So, if you’re ready to kick fear to the curb and rediscover the joy you deserve—I’m here for it. Let’s do this.

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